Why Can’t We All Just Get Along?

I’m here fresh from reading Facebook comments on viral videos so you’d know what influenced me to write this. The million dollar question is “Why can’t we all just get along?” I have two answers to this. I will go through each and satisfy myself with some explanation.

Because we’re different.

That’s plain as day. Although that doesn’t mean that just because we’re different, we shouldn’t get along. It only suggests that there are differences to consider before people decide to get along with one another. These differences could include reasons, among a gazillion others. A person has his reasons (and his ways to find those reasons, I won’t delve in too deep – I think you get the point) to consider whether or not he should argue with someone on Facebook about why wild cats shan’t be domestic pets (among many other first world problems out there). These reasons are results of our different ways of thinking, experiences, influences, cultures and beliefs. That’s just one difference, and a very broad topic at that. Of course, you already know the more controversial differences like religion, sexuality and political opinions. I don’t have to cite an example but I will. The existence of ISIS is largely considered due to religious differences.

However, this answer is a dead end. What I mean by that is, this is an answer that poses no solution. It means, you just have to accept that we’re all different and live with that. Until, of course, you get entangled in this web of differing opinions and you find yourself justifying why you support this or that. Also, because we’re humans and there are many factors to consider, like our emotional acceptance of some things. For example, you may be supporting feminist activist groups until you have a son, harassed by feminism (it’s happening in other countries). Your mind may understand right and wrong, but your heart goes out to the one you love and it’s not always logical. Accepting differences means accepting the consequence too that, not everyone accepts differences. Yeah, sorry about that loop of thought. We can go on and on, but I think (hope) you get the point.

Because they’re wrong.

And I’m right. This is the more common mentality and a rather vast subject. To start off (and perhaps a continuation of the previous topic), we all hold different values and have different principles. Again, they could be borne from our own experiences, influences, cultures and beliefs. These principles, however, are not entirely different from others. We have groups of people that hold the same beliefs and principles (religious groups, activist groups, social groups, etc). It’s all fine and dandy until we realise that the beliefs and principles of others are contrary (and I mean, total opposite) to ours. I think you see the pattern here now. Differences introduce conflict. It doesn’t have to be that way, but that’s how it is in this world, right now.

Instead of accepting these differences, we categorise them, rather, as “wrong”. Now, things escalate if we name them right and wrong. Because, by who’s standard? Everyone has his own sets of rights and wrongs that may be different from others. It can’t depend on the circumstance because that’s ever-changing.

The modern world thinks it’s the majority. It’s by the majority’s standard that right and wrong shall be measured. Do you see the problem here? Anarchy! If the majority votes for having no need to vote at all, we’re all screwed. No more right, no more wrong. I know that’s a bit extreme but that’s reality. For example, the world, right now, is inclined to think that there’s no male and female anymore (by that, I mean, people call their sexuality new labels). Is that right? Is that wrong? Who knows and who’s the judge? And if you’re sitting there thinking, so what if there’s no right and wrong? It may not actually be an issue for yourself. But again, we’re humans. We get attached, emotionally. And if the people we love get some hate for what they believe in, we jump in to defend them, effectively building up our own law of what’s right and wrong (it’s wrong for others to hurt your family).

I think you get the point. I warned you. This is a rather vast subject but it’s fascinating. This answer to the question, however, is not a dead end. It’s a very loose one. You can go two ways. One is to establish an objective law for the rest of the world to follow. By having one standard for all, everything will be black and white. Things will be much easier, right? In some ways, that’s how communism works. Now, go to North Korea and experience it for yourself, if you want. The other way is to not have a law at all. That’s anarchy and I’m not repeating what I said against it in the last few paragraphs.

I was going to think of other answers but I think they all fall under either of these two. In the world of social research, they’re more known as either interpretivism or positivism but in our common speech, the reason why we all can’t get along is either because they’re (we’re) different or they’re (we’re) wrong.

In conclusion, and rather because I’m getting tired of thinking some more (it’s a Sunday!), we actually know the reason why we all can’t get along. We also have ways to solve it but we can’t afford the payment for this worldwide risk. Hitler tried and failed. UN tried and… well, still failing. It’s a great trade, this whole issue of peace. Whatever solution we choose, there will always be war, within and without. We’ll never get along unless we strive to not get along for the sake of peace. Yeah I can’t wrap my mind around that either.

I have chosen a solution for my own and it’s an easy trade. Those who’ve read some of my other posts know what I’m talking about. But I’d like to keep this post as objective (and short) as possible. I’ll write my own views another day. Thanks for dropping by listening to my talkative mind!